A Beginner’s Guide to Preparing for Anal Sex
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If you’re ready to slide into anal sex, like literally, know that this is one sex act that def needs some prep, especially if you haven’t spent much time in B-town.
We’re talking safety, cleanliness, a lot of lube, and some major arousal to help make the experience more pleasure than pain.
If you’re ready to slide into anal sex, like literally, know that this is one sex act that def needs some prep, especially if you haven’t spent much time in B-town.
We’re talking safety, cleanliness, a lot of lube, and some major arousal to help make the experience more pleasure than pain.
If your date is pulling into the driveway and you’re panicking, breathe. As long as you’ve got lube and access to some soap and water or wipes, you’re good.
“If you want to feel fresh before playing back there, it’s always OK to say, ‘I just want to take a quick pit stop to the bathroom,'
Bathroom break not possible? Wipes can do the trick, too.
If you don’t have the basics on hand, you might want to reschedule your butt sesh or switch gears with an equally pleasurable act.
Sh*t happens, and it’s NBD. But it does need to be addressed on account of the bacteria factor. To share the love and not the bacteria, don’t go back to front — as in from butt to mouth, vag, or hands — or to a different partner’s butt without a quick clean in between.
And remember, lube isn’t just an erotic addition to butt play — it’s a must for your comfort and safety. That’s because lube helps prevent painful tearing that can increase your chance of contracting HIV and other STIs.
Apply lube generously and, if you’re bottoming, be vocal about when you need reapplication.
Access to wipes or another way to wash up after can also help reduce the chance of other infections.
And while we’re on the subject of safety, don’t forget about barrier protection if there’s uncertainty about an involved partner’s STI status or if a partner has an STI.
Good to go? Here are a few quick pointers:
Lay down a towel or dark blanket if you’re worried about mess from lube, spunk, or residual poop.
Don’t skip the before play — it’ll help you relax and make anal oh-so-much better.
Waterproof sex blankets come in standard mattress sizes and protect your bedding while also giving you a plush surface for play.
Need a suggestion? Try the Liberator Fascinator Throw, which is available for purchase online and comes in a travel size so you can take your pleasure on the road.
If you’re priming for play with a toy, have a hanky or designated “safe” resting spot to lay it down before and after use.
If you’ve got a sex date tomorrow, make sure you’re stocked up on lube is the first order of business.
Just steer clear of numbing lubes, which can make it hard to feel when something’s not right.
Taking things slow and steady is a much safer way to help keep discomfort to a minimum.
Quick tip: Starting slow can ~literally~ save your ass, which is a tight space made of some very fine and delicate tissue. Not only will rushing make it a lot, er, harder, to penetrate, rushing can also make anal sex super painful and cause injury.
You can also use the time to get your derriere ready for action. This could mean trying it solo with your fingers or a toy, or grooming back there.
If you’re expecting anal to become a permanent fixture in your repertoire and plan to partake often, We recommends investing in a bidet.
Spontaneous sex is fun and all, but having more time to prep for anal comes in especially handy if you’re new to the game and dealing with common roadblocks, like the fear of pain or poop making an appearance.