Hot or Cold? Temperature Play is All the Rage!
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Whether it be hot or cold, temperature play can be a great way to spice up your sex life!
What is temperature play?
Temp play involves introducing controlled sensations of heat and cold during spicy times with your sexual partner. It's sensory play, and contrast is the main highlight. One moment you feel the warmth of hot wax or a heated touch, and the next, a cool breeze or the shock of ice.
Temperature play is often associated with BDSM, but it’s made its way into the mainstream as well - it also doesn't have to be daunting! It can be very simple and subtle, but can be more intense if desired. Our skin is incredibly sensitive, so alternating temperatures and sensations can be a great way to explore your kinkier side and try something new.
What are some examples of things I can use for temp play?
Temperature play doesn't always have to involve buying new toys and gadgets! It can involve common tools such as:
- A spoon, popped into the freezer for an hour so it gets icy
- Ice cubes - preferably reusable ice cubes, as regular ones melt and can leave a bunch of water everywhere
- A spoon, but this time warmed up in some hot water (make sure not to burn yourself!)
- Hot towels - these can be super relaxing and give a spa-like vibe
The idea is that the contrasting temperatures (cold, then hot, or vice versa) on erogenous zones or genitalia will be arousing.
But, if you're looking to purchase some new toys, here are some recommendations:
- Warm oil massages are amazing. There are candles that melt into massage oil, which provides a really sensual and stimulating sensation. Find them at the Art of Loving HERE !
- There are also candles that melt at lower temperatures so you can try out wax play. The idea is that as the candle melts, you drip the wax onto your partner's skin. This is also amazing if done blindfolded. The only difference is that these candles don't become massage oil, and leave wax residue - so be sure to plan ahead for this! More information on how to safely use the candles are found at the Art of Loving HERE !
- If you're not interested in fiddling around with heating stuff up (or cooling them down), Deia has this Hot and Cold rechargeable wand that does all the hard work for you! Find it at the Art of Loving HERE !
Lastly, you can also totally use yourself as a prop for temperature play! For example, if you lightly rub an ice cube on your partner's penis, then put his penis inside your vagina, the temperature difference will be incredible! Be creative, and have fun! <3