How Do We Long Distance?
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About moving into a long distance relationship...
My wonderful committed relationship will soon turn long distance; I am worried, scared, and nervous. We’ve only been seeing each other for a little over seven months but it has been going well. To ease my worries, I have decided to research how to make a long-distance relationship work. Selfishly, this article is more for myself than anyone else :)
We’re going to have to be really communicative with each other. Like, super communicative via text. My fellow is in a completely different time zone so it might be difficult for us to call. We’re going to make time and schedule calls. Texting is always on the board. If I’m feeling odd that day, we may send emails. I’ll definitely be sending packages over once a month at the least.
Since we aren’t going to be able to see facial and body language, I’m worried that the both of us will miss out on that connection. We won’t be able to hold each others hands when we need comfort. Comfort through words will be important. It’s the thought that counts here.
We have a good sex life and I’m definitely worried about the lack of contact. I’m interested in getting a remote app controllable toy so we can still have fun. One for each of us would be ideal. I think you could also just communicate through text what settings the other person should set on their toy, but that’s a little (a lot tbh) less sexy. I still think it would work in a pinch!
Update from the future… I got a Lovense Flexer since it looked fun and is a chunk cheaper than the Lush 3. Its fingering motion sounded like a upgrade for me. I am pleasantly shocked at how well the app control works. The toy connected immediately! That felt really nice. A great feature for Lovense toys is that you can set the vibration limit. The party controlling your toy won’t know unless you tell them. The flexer part of the Flexer is gentle but noticeable. It doesn’t get very fast. I think it’s great for teasing and edging. The vibrations get pretty crazy. It has two vibrator motors for the clit rest and g-spot flexer. Sadly, you cannot control the vibrations separately. The flexer and vibrations are separable though. Battery life is swell. 60-minute charge for around 3 hours of continuous use. Not as long as the Lush 3 but still impressive.
The Art of Loving Sex Shop has a lot of other great remote options I am willing to explore. I understand the love people have for Lovense now. We also have We-Vibe and B-Vibe remote controllable toys + others. Shameless plug to visit us yourself ;)