Masturbation and Relationships
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About Masturbation in Relationships...
Even in a perfect relationship where you partner understands you body beautifully, you know your own body best. In a committed relationship you might still want to masturbate. You might ask yourself if it's normal or weird to masturbate in a relationship? Let's talk.
Masturbation in relationships is healthy and actually a great idea. It helps preserve and builds sexual autonomy and confidence. Masturbation is a form of self care. It a stress reliever, confidence builder, and helps you hit the zzz's way better. It can help enhance your sex life, helps your partner out if you know how to help yourself first. Just because you committed doesn’t mean your partner is solely responsible for your orgasms. This goes both ways of course.
There's this misconception that masturbating is cheating. That it's possible to "cheat on someone with a vibrator." In my opinion that sounds ridiculous. It's in a similar genre of concept of "I don't wipe my butt-hole after I poop because touching my butt-hole would be gay." A very human thing is us making tools to improve our lives and solve solutions. Vibrators are a tool to help you masturbate (which is a very normal and healthy thing). Toilet paper is a tool to make sure you have a clean butt (which is also very normal to want to clean yourself).
Masturbating is not an indicator of an unsatisfying relationship.
Sometimes you need alone time.
The only time masturbation habits can be negative is when they are taking over your life. If you can't focus on social or professional commitments that's your indicator to talk to someone about it.
Talk about it and try mutual masturbation if you think it would help with normalizing it.
And try toys to enhance your sexual wellness. Remember, otters use rocks to open shellfish and humans also use tools to improve their lives.
Toys we carry at The Art of Loving that are great for masturbation include: