Sensual Massages Are Soooo Underrated!
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Want to try a new and intimate activity? Don't underestimate the power of a sensual massage as foreplay!
Bonding with your partner intimately doesn't always just have to mean having sex, or performing sexual activities!
Foreplay is a crucial part of sex and building tension (and romance, if that's your jazz). A creative activity you can do to make your partner feel amazing is offer to give them a sensual massage! Though a massage will undoubtedly feel great for your partner, my personal advice is to not put pressure for this activity to lead to sex, or have the expectation of reciprocation. Sometimes it's truly nice to be in tune with your partner's body and to make them feel comfortable, wanted, and sexy.
The Setup:
If you have a massage table, that would definitely be ideal, but I can imagine that the average individual does not casually have a massage table in their house! Otherwise, your bed (or even the couch, or potentially the floor) would be doable. Just make sure to put down several towels or blankets wherever you'd like your partner to lay down, in case of your massage oil staining your nice sheets or couch covers.
Light a candle, dim the lights, and put on some music! Lighting candles with your partner's favorite scent, or a nice herbal scent like lavender, lemongrass, or jasmine, can definitely relax them and give spa vibes. Or, if you're thinking of getting a heavily scented massage oil (more on this in a bit!) and letting it be the star of the show, you can opt to light a scentless candle, or simply just adjust the light settings if you have Smart light bulbs or lamps.
Put on some relaxing music! Whether your partner likes R&B, jazz, classical, or you decide to just opt for some elevator music, it'll really set the tone for a relaxing and special night.
Pick your massage oil. This is key! You can do anything from all natural jojoba oil, or coconut oil (such as the Coco Crema), to leave the skin feeling silky and moisturized.
If your partner likes herbal and stronger-smelling massage oils, try the Wicked Lemongrass and Ginger Massage Oil, or the JO Lavender and Vanilla Massage Oil.
You can also incorporate edible massage oil to spice things up as bit. You can put these types of massage oil on your partner erogenous zones and lick them off, or put it near the genitalia for some sexy play. Just be aware that edible massage oil is not recommended to insert into vaginas, or to be used as lube. Flavored lube exists, and it is clearly labeled as such!
Otherwise, a good product that can double as a lube and a massage oil, is JO's Lavender Silicone Lube / Massage Oil.
Anyway, edible massage oil is more like a "lickable massage oil" - I wouldn't recommending drinking this, but it's certainly safe to lick and ingest. Just make sure the label clearly says "edible" or "lickable" ! l
Some great, and very popular, examples of edible massage oil are the Edible Massage Oil Gift Set.
You can also incorporate some light "wax" play, by using a massage oil candle, such as the This Smells Like We're Gunna Have Sex candle. These candles don't have wax in them (which hardens when it dries) but are still light-able, and the melted oil is used to massage your partner. You can drip the warmed oil on them unexpectedly, which adds a layer of surprise!
There are a ton of ways to adjust and experiment with your massage to fit your needs and desires. You can have your partner laying on their back, having them sitting up and reclined (if doing a foot/leg massage), adding in a blindfold, adding in sensation play (if you're looking for things to get spicier!), along with using different scents to keep things interesting. Whatever the case, my best advice would be to think about what your partner would enjoy, and maybe even ask their opinion if you're unsure!
Happy massaging! <3